Don’t Stress: No ‘Poo

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I was really reluctant to ‘go there’ today with a no ‘poo post, but I do want to talk about it, so here I am.

Several months ago I toyed around with the no ‘poo buzz.

I updated my journey when I started this blog explaining the benefits of ditching commercial shampoo. After doing it for a while, I had to adjust to the transition because my hair would take a life of it’s on every, single day. Between the smell of hair – yep, it doesn’t stink, but hair smells like hair – and my fight with heated tools, I gave in and started washing my hair every day.

Although I felt it necessary to clean my hair everyday, I have continued using all natural shampoo and conditioner (store bought). In my dreams I would be using the baking soda and ACV rinse but I’m not there yet.

So, I’ve been doing that in the meantime until this past weekend.

It’s been 4 days since I have washed my hair, at all. Not even water, people! (I feel like I have to add here that I have bathed my body with soap).

It wasn’t intentional. I was swimming, playing with my daughter, lounging around, designing on my etsy shop, and shooting guns at the hunting club to bond with my Boo.

I figured that since I was so free-spirited that I wouldn’t worry with my hair.

Lo and behold:

It is not oily. It is not dry. It is not nasty.

I’m thinking that it has finally transitioned over time by using all natural shampoo and conditioner.

So, this post isn’t a how-to guide, it’s to inspire!

If my crazy hair can eventually transition, anyone’s can. Everyone’s hair is different and there are so many ways to no/lo poo. It’s about sticking with it, not stressing, and focusing on something else in the meantime.

As of now, I’m just gonna rock along until I have to wash it. It also helps I have a new self-imposed work uniform hair style. Until then:

No poo it is…again!

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Paying Debt & Common Sense

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Wouldn’t it be perfect if we didn’t have credit card debt, could live a passionate life, and be generally awesome?

One major focus of mine is paying off debt. I’m no guru, but I have recently changed my strategies and have let go of fear. I have become my own Financial Boss and put the responsibility back where it has belong all along: to me, the Boss.

I’ve done a few things that I want to share:

  1. Admitted I am severely in debt and need to change that now.
  2. Opened my mind, let go of fear and adjusted my strategies.
  3.  Stopped useless spending.

But there is one thing that I think is most important of all when paying off debt and it’s really simple:

Use common sense.

I saved nearly $8.50 on one grocery store purchase today using that philosophy alone. Want to know how?

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By not buying mixed nuts with a black label that only used the words ‘Premium’ and ‘Deluxe’.

Excuse my sarcasm (not really), but who would buy that, I thought? Then I was mad at Publix for putting an outrageous pricetag on nuts in the slightest, tiniest, bit larger can than the one it sits next too.

Then I thought…

Well, clearly people are buying it! Why?

I just…I can’t.

We all need to be sure to keep our eyes open for ridiculous marketing strategies. It’s us against them. It’s easy to fall prey when we shop. It’s important to know our values and follow through with our dreams and not let silly obstacles get in our way of being who we want to be. It’s important.

My Definition of Minimalism

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I’ve never been one for dreamboards or inspiring collages. However, I have found that attaching some visual to how I want to live and feel very helpful in a journey toward change. It seems that when I meditate on the person I am at heart and the desires I have for my life; I need some type of aspiration to view. This helps me remain focused on what I am doing and stay on track.

Since I’ve had many ups and downs through life (as we all have), it’s easy to become accustomed to whatever track we are on and get complacent. We may start asking ourselves if we are even getting anywhere and if what we are doing even matters.

The fact is it does matter, and it matters a whole lot.

I call this my minimalistic journey and there are so many definitions that people add to the term to try to define it. I’ve even thought about my own definition and I really can’t put it into words.

But I can put it into a picture.

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Minimalism to me is:

F R E E D O M

  • It’s using from nature what I need and nothing more.
  • It’s valuing relationships over things.
  • It’s living authentic and light.
  • It’s making choices with clarity and purpose.
  • It’s enjoying the gift of life.
  • It’s choosing peace over stress and busyness.
  • It’s contentment.

This journey is more than rules and limitations, because there really are no rules; only choices.

I’m Wearing Black Because it Makes Sense

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There’s a lot of talk among aspiring minimalists and oodles of Pinterest examples of the Capsule Wardrobe. I’ve read up on it and have been inspired for a really long time to make my own capsules and ditch the excess.

It’s been a really positive experience so far, and even when I think I have my capsule perfect, something else sparks my interest and that’s OK, too.

Earlier this week, I got super excited and inspired by a post called Why I Wear the Same Thing Every Day and it’s like everything just clicked in my mind as far as my wardrobe goes.

It’s true, most of our well-known famous world-changers wear the same thing every day. They have their ‘signature look’ and keep their look simple and streamlined so that they can focus on important stuff, instead of wasting energy on the not-so-important daily decisions such as what they will be wearing that day.

In the grand scheme of things, I think it’s safe to say that our clothes is not all that important, huh?

If you had of asked me last year if I would have felt this way this year I would have looked at you like you had 6 heads.

I’m a girl that has always kept up with fashion, and have been proud that I dress a little different or outside the lines a bit. I don’t know why, really but I have a hunch that society and highschool may have planted some type of seed that our clothes are more important than anything.

So, many years and much debt and unhappiness in shopping and wasting money on clothing later:

I’ve adopted a capsule and a self-imposed work uniform.

Drumroll please….

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Yep, that’s a dark pair of jeans and a black shirt.

I showed how I broke up my capsule into work and weekend the other day.

It just so happens that I had (3) black shirts in my capsule/closet anyway so it makes sense to me that I’ll be wearing black mostly with my one pair of jeans. What? One pair? Yes.

And I have a few other shirts that I might rotate in. But then again, maybe not because just a simple black shirt seems pretty dang flawless to me. Black and dark colors are slimming and it’s classic. They don’t show dirt and smudges or nasty pit stains. It’s solid so there’s no question does this print go with that print. I mean, can this even be messed up or go wrong? I can’t imagine so.

Also, I figured I would have a work uniform hair do’ too, because why not? It’s just pinned back with bobby pins so I no longer will have to use heated products to style or fight humidity in this hellish Alabama summer heat.

This hairstyle is pretty much the easiest thing ever.

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After 3 days of wearing a black shirt and the same pair of dark jeans not one person in my sphere has commented. That tells me that even the closest of loved ones could care less about what I’m wearing.

They say to dress for the job you want, not for the job you have.

Well, my friends:

A Bachelor’s Degree in Business and 10 years of career hunting and climbing ladders and layoffs and playing office politics later, I can say without question that dressing for the job you want is paramount.

Which is why I am dressing simply and in jeans. Because if my job requires me to use my clothing as my leverage in life, then that’s no job I want at all.

That’s playing games and I don’t have time for that.

I’ve been there done that and thank God out of those situations.

My current job is a good one and I can dress like this if I want to.

And I do.

Facebook Creepin’

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Man. I know it may come across that I am a complete Facebook Hater, but I’m not. Or, am I? I really don’t know.

What I do know is that this incident really happened yesterday:

I saw a guy at Publix getting out of his car beside me. He has NO idea that I even exist. What’s super creepy is that I know his name. I know where he works. I know that he has a little baby girl, and that he is married to a girl I knew in highschool, yet haven’t seen or spoken to her in over 10 years. No, I have never stalked this person or met him but I know all of these details from (the girl/his wife) on Facebook.

Should I emphasize again the main point here?

He has no idea who in the world I am!

That was really creepy.

And makes me wonder how many people that I’ve never met who know those kind of details about me.

Ew.

So, yes. My Facebook is still deactivated.

Clarity Above Clutter

Clarity, Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Minimalism, Minimalist

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The minimalist journey has been amazing so far. I have a little more free time at home, my house isn’t as crowded and messy, things are beginning to have a place; and more importantly I am taking more time for myself – to dream, to meditate, and to really hone in on what I want.

It’s not perfect, but it is better.

One of the things I am noticing now is my clarity is becoming more clear. I am more certain about myself and decision making isn’t such a drudgery. I have been running for so long on auto-pilot, and my daily to-do-list itself was so out of control that I didn’t have time to actually think. This in turn had manifested in continual sickness and impacting my health.

We all have a breaking point, and that was mine.

That is when I started running in the opposite direction and am currently still on the bail.

I have more time to think about things that I never could when I was on empty like:

  1. Waste: I’ve been recently inspired by Kelly Almost Green as she shows her progress on less waste. Although, I’m not at the point where it’s my main focus, I am more thoughtful on simple choices like paper over plastic featured in my muffin pic above. I am also using my Pyrex bowls to store food instead of Ziplocks and my family is making it a point to utilize leftovers. When I shop, I purchase veggies individually without the plastic wrap. It’s the small things that add up to the big things.
  2. Laundry: I’ve been hanging my clothes to dry skipping the dryer all together. At one time, I would have thought this was such a waste; but now I am open to change. I realize that going straight from the wash to hang saves me a lot of time and unnecessary steps.
  3. Beauty Routine: Minimizing the products I use saves time and money. I have the exact same results as before and in some cases better; such as my skin heath by doing the caveman regimine and using natural body soap.
  4. Capsule Wardrobe: Before, I felt like the more options I had, the better. That’s just not the case. By donating or selling items that I don’t like or don’t fit well, I now have an uncluttered closet with clothes I actually love. Getting ready in the morning is so much easier and I’m less likely to splurge on a shopping spree.
  5. Getting balls: I realize that I have expended way more than I’ve gotten in the last decade for fear of rejection. I’m a true people-pleaser, but there has got to be more balance. I’ve forgotten my stance along the way and I now have the clarity to begin growing my balls again.

Now that I’ve implemented the action needed to reduce the excess and unnecessary in my life I can breathe a little easier. The clarity and focus that was silenced to internal and external clutter is way more useful and important than the ‘stuff’ used to pacify my discontent. 

In moving forward, I plan on continuing giving up excuses and getting up off my ass. I won’t watch my life pass me by while I’m a bystander. I’m going to do something about it, and if you are in the same boat as me, I suggest you do the same too.

Have You Seen My Balls?

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So, just wondering if you or anyone else has seen my balls?

I meditate a lot these days, and one recurring theme keeps coming back nearly every time I clear my head and focus:

Where in the hell did your balls go?

Did you give them away?

What have you been so afraid of?

It’s imperative that you either get your balls back from whomever or whatever you gave them to, or grow a new set – a better set, quickly.

Just to clear the record: I am female and I’m not talking about actual testicles.

Balls are something we all have deep down. It’s that yearning, hopeful, self-preserving, primal gusto that somehow gets buried and dissolved into nothingness after so many of life’s slip-ups.

We own our balls. No one can ‘take’ them, yet we freely give them away to our spouse, family, friends, marketing tactics, employers, and society in general. It’s like, we forget who we are because somewhere along the line we decided to be straight-up people pleasers all the time and God forbid we actually look out for ourselves for one minute. Do we just go a long with the crowd to ‘fit in’ or to not step on someone’s toes?

I am totally not about being hateful, rude, or anything like that. It’s just, don’t we have dreams to follow here? Don’t we have an actual life to live?

I’d like to get my balls back or at least grow a pair pretty dang soon. I have a great feeling that once that happens, I can get some serious dream-work done.

Why I Wear The Same Thing Every Day

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I open my WordPress Reader and got a dose of inspiration this morning while sipping my coffee at the office. I love when this happens!

The post was:

Why I Wear The Same Thing Every Day.

In essence, it explains how a lot of super-successful people wear a work uniform for simplicity so they can focus on their work and passions without worrying about clothing.

I’ve been obsessed with my capsule this summer, so much so that I post about it a good bit.

But, after thinking: hey, I should just have a work uniform from my capsule for consistency and then a weekend capsule for the weekends.

So, since I already had pictures from my current capsule, all I had to do was split it up into two categories:

1. Work

2. Weekend

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And I’m pretty pleased with the split. By the looks of the capsules, I may can actually narrow down what I have currently in my closet to match this exactly.

That would be perfect.

Have you ever thought about a work uniform, too? I’m excited to split up the capsule and see how it goes over the next week.

Take a Chance, Make a Change

Capsule Wardrobes, Clarity, De-Cluttering, Debt, Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Hippie Life, Hippy Life, Letting Go, Meditation, Minimalism, Minimalist, Money, Simple Life, Simplicity, Yoga

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We have a chance to make numerous choices every, single day. There comes a point though, when maybe our auto-pilot life becomes comfortable. Boring, stagnant, and comfortable. We realize beneath it all something is lacking. Our joy has been squelched due to the day-to-day demands that we dictate to ourselves. We measure our worth based on checking off the to-do-list and then beating ourselves up when we simply can’t accomplish it all.

That’s a rut. It’s a tough one to admit to, and a stickler to dig out of.

That’s where I was just a few short months ago. I started running – not walking – in the opposite direction.

It was time to take a risk: I have to change and take some risks, here. 

This realization and admittance that I am in fact, not Super Woman was a little hard to come to grips with, but there was truth beneath the surface.

I don’t want to be Super Woman.

I don’t want to be living in chaos. I don’t want to feel overwhelmed and full of anxiety. I want peace and joy.

The contrast between the two are pretty drastic.

That means I have to open my mind and try different solutions to my struggle.

Day by day, my slow changes are really easing my anxiety and happiness is finally creeping in. I do things a little differently now by:

  1. Getting rid of excess and clutter for clarity and less wasted time on organizing and picking up.
  2. Removing social media from my life so I can focus on myself and what’s important.
  3. Thinking positively by meditating and appreciating what I have and where I’m going.
  4. Letting go of other people’s behavior and my past.
  5. Changing daily chores: I hang clothes to dry, use less dishes and hand-wash when done, put things back where they belong, and let it go when I want to do something else.
  6. Eating well helps me feel energized and lose excess pounds.
  7. Paying off debt by getting my finances in order and stop useless spending.
  8. Daily Yoga helps my body stretch and tone as well as a great way to integrate balance in my life.
  9. Being conscious of my beauty routine where less is definitely more.
  10. Creating a capsule wardrobe so my style is consistent and less stressful when getting ready and wasting money filling the gaps for sake of fashion.

These 10 changes have taken time. I began slowly and deliberately and have really tried to understand myself and my past along the way. It’s been my saving grace in the stickabilty to a major life change like this one.

Knowing you need to make a change and then taking the plunge can be scary. But there is nothing to fear. You can always go back to the way things were before. I mean, what’s there to lose?

The Overwhelmed Life

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Turns out I’d been running as fast as I could in the wrong direction. Oops. The stuff wasn’t doing its job: it wasn’t making me happy. In fact, the opposite was true: instead of happiness, I was faced with stress and discontent and anxiety. And massive, crippling debt. And, eventually, depression. I no longer had time for a life outside of work, often laboring 70–80 hours a week just to pay for the stuff that wasn’t making me happy. I didn’t have time for anything I wanted to do: no time to write, no time to read, no time to relax, no time for my closest relationships. I didn’t even have time to have a cup of coffee with a friend, to listen to their stories. I realized that I didn’t control my time, and thus I didn’t control my own life. It was a shocking realization.

That was from The Minimalist’s website.

This is the exact same place I was just a few months ago. My life was so overwhelming. I created a certain life where I was chasing dreams and thinking I was doing the right thing.

As it turns out, I too was running in the wrong direction to the point that my health has started suffering.

Thankfully, as the days go by I feel better. I can tell a change in my body and psyche.

It’s the un-doing of the massive life I created. The un-doing of unnecessary so my priorities can be at the forefront.

My simplifying process began just a few short months ago when I admitted to myself and to my closest relationships:

I am overwhelmed. I have made a lot of mistakes. I am in a hole that I don’t know how to dig out of. And most importantly…

I thought I was super woman, but I am not. 

Those words, that admittance, has forever changed me. It has sparked some major changes. These changes are slow and deliberate and they aren’t complete. But I am digging out. I am moving on and letting go slowly but surely.

My goal with this blog isn’t to share the ‘best’ way to live your life. It’s to share my journey, my experience and to let you know that if you find yourself in the same situation as I was; that we can change. We can alter our circumstances and be free to enjoy life. It doesn’t happen in a day, but it will happen. And to me, it’s absolutely WORTH IT.