Slow Down: Sacrifice for Impact

Clarity, Debt, Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Minimalism, Minimalist

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It’s so easy to forget our mission in life when busyness, procrastination, clutter, and to-do-lists overtake our time. It seems a majority of us are in the cycle and it seems there is no way out. At some point, we accept it and just call it ‘adulthood.’ And once we name it, we own it. We tick through the rest of our life vaguely aware of our surroundings. Guilt seeps in when we want to take time for ourselves. We become weak, agitated, frustrated, and overwhelmed. We continue at this pace because we are supposed to.

I’d like to meet the person who told all of use that we have to live this way.

Because I truly think this ‘person’ does not exist at all.

This ‘person’ could be society. We feel that we have to compete with others and one-up our status. This one-upmanship is also known as Keeping-Up-With-The-Jones. Sure, we all agree that this keeping-up is not the best way to live – but if we are honest, we live that way anyway.

Our Facebook post has to look cuter than someone else’s. Our car has to look fancy so we can show everyone that we do, in fact, have a job and are contributing to the pot of society. The American Dream is being lived, y’all! But at the end of the day it’s no dream at all. We know it deep down, but we can’t break this cycle because we don’t want to come across as lazy, unfit, or less-than.

So, debt and possession rule our lives. It comes in between us and our families. We have no friends, because we have to work ourselves to the bone to pay for that new loveseat. It’s cute though, but unfortunately we don’t have time to host friends over because we are at work. And when we aren’t at work, we are at home cleaning, organizing, and moving around our stuff.

When our friends ask us how we have been or what we’ve been up to lately we respond:

Busy.

Yes, we have been busy. We’ve been busy trying to create a lucrative life at the hands of our employer. We’re busy thinking about acquiring a luxury lifestyle and living beyond our means.

We haven’t been busy contributing to what’s most important, which I feel safe to say is:

  • Family
  • Helping
  • Serving
  • Resting
  • Relaxing
  • Creating
  • Wanderlusting
  • Traveling
  • Exploring

Those are my most important things in life. And I’ve neglected those things for far too long.

It takes time to shift to a more simple, deliberate, slow lifestyle. But, when we realize that we need to change our path and begin to clear the distractions: clutter, busyness, overwhelm, we can gain clarity and shift focus to what’s truly important.

We won’t be remembered for our career, but we will be remembered for our impact.

There’s more to life than just paying bills and then you die.

I’m not willing to sacrifice my life for stuff and status. I am however, willing to sacrifice my life for change, memories, and impact.

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You Have Permission

Clarity, Free Spirit, Hippy Life, Letting Go, Minimalism, Simple Life, Simplicity

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As human beings we want to connect to others and use words to describe how we feel.

This is hard for me sometimes, because some things that I feel inside my heart are so profound that I can’t find the right words to bring it to life.

It doesn’t seem right to say that I’m just:

  • De-cluttering
  • Simplifying
  • Becoming minimalist
  • Going natural
  • Making room for priorities
  • Spending less
  • Saving more
  • Getting out of debt

and most of all

Living daily for who and what is most important in my life.

I found the word that describes my journey and I want to share because perhaps you feel it gyrating deep in your bones too.

METANOIA

We don’t have to be who we were yesterday. We don’t have to live on auto-pilot anymore. You have permission to let go, spread your wings, and be who your heart is telling you to be.

How-To and What to Expect with No ‘Poo

Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Hippy Life, Letting Go, Minimalism, Minimalist, No 'Poo / Lo 'Poo, Simple Life, Simplicity

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We all have done experiments and changed our behaviors at some point or another. So, we know we can do it, it’s just a matter of doing it.

I’ve changed my behavior approximately 9,000,000,000 times in the last thirty-something years. Some of my changes stick, other’s don’t. We all change minute to minute throughout our lives, and that’s totally OK.

In recent posts I talked about my no/lo poo journey. This clearly doesn’t apply to everyone, but it does to me. It’s something worth experimenting because:

  • I want to save money instead of wasting it on beauty products
  • I want to spend less time primping in the mornings
  • I want to be OK with my natural, authentic self

That’s really the main motives behind this.

A lot of other’s are experimenting with the switch to no/lo poo as well. This is why if your interest is peaked and you go to research, there is so much information available that, quite honestly, makes it seem intimidating.

That’s because what works for one person, doesn’t for another. One person has xyz result and not the other.

So you are kind of frozen not knowing where to start because you simply don’t know what to do and are afraid of the outcome.

What I personally didn’t read a lot of was the honest-to-God truth about what to expect when doing the switch. It made me very leery at first because I know good and dang well that not everyone who does it has that much success, right?

I mean, I have lived long enough to just know better.

And so have you, which is why you may be scared to even try it.

How to start and what to expect:

Decision: You have to want to do this. It’s different from what you’ve always done. Years worth of sudsing up with commercial shampoo has created an exhilarating showering experience every, single day of your life for as long as you have known. If you go no ‘poo – you will not have this experience. You won’t be using shampoo so there won’t be any sudsing or bottled scents wafting in the shower any more.

If you decide to plunge, can you handle it? I mean, it sounds silly but seriously? Can you handle it?

If you are stuck in your decision process and just can’t make up your mind but still want to try it, there’s only one thing to do at this point:

Say eff-it and do it.

Get in the shower and don’t wash your hair.

Expectations: Please don’t expect to fall in love with your hair on this day. It’s going to feel grimy and oily and unmanageable. That’s because you aren’t used to having hair unwashed. Your hair is in shock because it’s actually being left alone for the first time in your life. It’s wanting to run free and roam the meadows.

Let it.

Just like any other change, getting used to unwashed hair takes time. It’s going to feel weird like you ‘forgot something’ and it’s not going to feel the same. You may feel self conscious because you are rocking some unwashed locks.

Don’t expect to style it the same way. At first, it would be wise to have a plan B on styling that day. For me, I twist it back with some bobby pins and go about my business.

After a few days of not washing your hair, don’t be surprised if you realize that you have never gotten to know your hair at all. It’s like a strangers head of hair and you will not know how to deal with it. Again, have a plan B until you figure it out – and you will, and I will too.

For some people, the unwashed hair stays oily for a week and for others months. You will not know how your hair will do until you try it.

Don’t be surprised if no one else on Earth even notices that you aren’t washing your hair. That will be a lightbulb moment when you realize you have been stressing over getting ‘perfect hair’ and no one else has ever cared but you.

Get excited that you will feel free and rebellious like a child that isn’t minding over-bearing adults. It’s like you are getting away with something you aren’t supposed to do. Because, after all, doesn’t everybody over-wash their hair? Doesn’t everybody continue to make commercial shampoo companies super rich while we spend hours a week primping in front of a mirror and spending oodles of our hard earned money unnecessarily?

No. Not everybody.

Don’t be surprised that after not washing your hair for several days that you start to love your natural self and question why you have ever put that kind of time in effort into your hair. You may question why you’ve been manipulating circumstances so much that you have totally ruined a perfectly good set of hair by constantly messing with it.

You may even realize that you are wild and free at heart and it’s not your problem if other people have an issue with what you do with your hair.

Best of all, you may just learn to love your beautiful, primal, loving, gorgeous, authentic self and just be happy with the way things are un-controlled.

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And sometimes, having crazy hair – don’t care is the best way to have it after all. Wild and free. Rebellious and empowered. Loved and loving.

Manipulating Circumstances

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Gaining clarity during simplifying is one of the biggest benefits to a minimalistic lifestyle. There comes a time in the process of de-cluttering and re-arranging priorities that a lightbulb goes off.

It’s that little voice that tells you:

Stop manipulating your circumstances.

Little did I know, I was a manipulator and a controller. I felt like my life was under my control every step of the way. I thought that I could go with the flow, but in reality, it was just a cover-up. One slip up or one little blip could derail me at any moment and I knew it.

That thought alone scared me half to death, not to mention gave me daily anxiety trying to keep it all together.

Thankfully, I have learned from my experiences. A job layoff got this ball rolling, it was as simple as that.

One day, my finances worked. I had a job. I could plan on things. I knew what income I had and I based my life on that. Everything that I controlled fit in this little bubble of mine.

That is, until it didn’t.

I learned so much more from losing my job besides ‘oh, shit’ I don’t have any way to pay bills or continue my lifestyle this way.

I adapted and realized that I have so much without that type of stability. My priorities and security was in my job, itself. There is more to me than that.

Letting go and simplifying creates a unique perspective. You soon realize that the clothes, makeup, fancy cars, expensive food, and junk cluttering up your house is just a cover-up. Those things are not who you are. Not even close.

When the dust fades and income is removed, or when you donate excess clutter from your life, it shows just how meaningless some of the things you put as a priority truly are.

The most empowering thing of all is figuring out what to do with less. It’s exhilarating to let go and realize that you can, in fact, survive without it.

Don’t Stress: No ‘Poo

Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Hippie Life, Hippy Life, Minimalism, Minimalist, Natural Beauty, No 'Poo / Lo 'Poo, Simple Life, Simplicity

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I was really reluctant to ‘go there’ today with a no ‘poo post, but I do want to talk about it, so here I am.

Several months ago I toyed around with the no ‘poo buzz.

I updated my journey when I started this blog explaining the benefits of ditching commercial shampoo. After doing it for a while, I had to adjust to the transition because my hair would take a life of it’s on every, single day. Between the smell of hair – yep, it doesn’t stink, but hair smells like hair – and my fight with heated tools, I gave in and started washing my hair every day.

Although I felt it necessary to clean my hair everyday, I have continued using all natural shampoo and conditioner (store bought). In my dreams I would be using the baking soda and ACV rinse but I’m not there yet.

So, I’ve been doing that in the meantime until this past weekend.

It’s been 4 days since I have washed my hair, at all. Not even water, people! (I feel like I have to add here that I have bathed my body with soap).

It wasn’t intentional. I was swimming, playing with my daughter, lounging around, designing on my etsy shop, and shooting guns at the hunting club to bond with my Boo.

I figured that since I was so free-spirited that I wouldn’t worry with my hair.

Lo and behold:

It is not oily. It is not dry. It is not nasty.

I’m thinking that it has finally transitioned over time by using all natural shampoo and conditioner.

So, this post isn’t a how-to guide, it’s to inspire!

If my crazy hair can eventually transition, anyone’s can. Everyone’s hair is different and there are so many ways to no/lo poo. It’s about sticking with it, not stressing, and focusing on something else in the meantime.

As of now, I’m just gonna rock along until I have to wash it. It also helps I have a new self-imposed work uniform hair style. Until then:

No poo it is…again!

Paying Debt & Common Sense

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Wouldn’t it be perfect if we didn’t have credit card debt, could live a passionate life, and be generally awesome?

One major focus of mine is paying off debt. I’m no guru, but I have recently changed my strategies and have let go of fear. I have become my own Financial Boss and put the responsibility back where it has belong all along: to me, the Boss.

I’ve done a few things that I want to share:

  1. Admitted I am severely in debt and need to change that now.
  2. Opened my mind, let go of fear and adjusted my strategies.
  3.  Stopped useless spending.

But there is one thing that I think is most important of all when paying off debt and it’s really simple:

Use common sense.

I saved nearly $8.50 on one grocery store purchase today using that philosophy alone. Want to know how?

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By not buying mixed nuts with a black label that only used the words ‘Premium’ and ‘Deluxe’.

Excuse my sarcasm (not really), but who would buy that, I thought? Then I was mad at Publix for putting an outrageous pricetag on nuts in the slightest, tiniest, bit larger can than the one it sits next too.

Then I thought…

Well, clearly people are buying it! Why?

I just…I can’t.

We all need to be sure to keep our eyes open for ridiculous marketing strategies. It’s us against them. It’s easy to fall prey when we shop. It’s important to know our values and follow through with our dreams and not let silly obstacles get in our way of being who we want to be. It’s important.

My Definition of Minimalism

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I’ve never been one for dreamboards or inspiring collages. However, I have found that attaching some visual to how I want to live and feel very helpful in a journey toward change. It seems that when I meditate on the person I am at heart and the desires I have for my life; I need some type of aspiration to view. This helps me remain focused on what I am doing and stay on track.

Since I’ve had many ups and downs through life (as we all have), it’s easy to become accustomed to whatever track we are on and get complacent. We may start asking ourselves if we are even getting anywhere and if what we are doing even matters.

The fact is it does matter, and it matters a whole lot.

I call this my minimalistic journey and there are so many definitions that people add to the term to try to define it. I’ve even thought about my own definition and I really can’t put it into words.

But I can put it into a picture.

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Minimalism to me is:

F R E E D O M

  • It’s using from nature what I need and nothing more.
  • It’s valuing relationships over things.
  • It’s living authentic and light.
  • It’s making choices with clarity and purpose.
  • It’s enjoying the gift of life.
  • It’s choosing peace over stress and busyness.
  • It’s contentment.

This journey is more than rules and limitations, because there really are no rules; only choices.

I’m Wearing Black Because it Makes Sense

Capsule Wardrobes, Gentle Change, Minimalism, Minimalist, Simple Life, Simplicity

There’s a lot of talk among aspiring minimalists and oodles of Pinterest examples of the Capsule Wardrobe. I’ve read up on it and have been inspired for a really long time to make my own capsules and ditch the excess.

It’s been a really positive experience so far, and even when I think I have my capsule perfect, something else sparks my interest and that’s OK, too.

Earlier this week, I got super excited and inspired by a post called Why I Wear the Same Thing Every Day and it’s like everything just clicked in my mind as far as my wardrobe goes.

It’s true, most of our well-known famous world-changers wear the same thing every day. They have their ‘signature look’ and keep their look simple and streamlined so that they can focus on important stuff, instead of wasting energy on the not-so-important daily decisions such as what they will be wearing that day.

In the grand scheme of things, I think it’s safe to say that our clothes is not all that important, huh?

If you had of asked me last year if I would have felt this way this year I would have looked at you like you had 6 heads.

I’m a girl that has always kept up with fashion, and have been proud that I dress a little different or outside the lines a bit. I don’t know why, really but I have a hunch that society and highschool may have planted some type of seed that our clothes are more important than anything.

So, many years and much debt and unhappiness in shopping and wasting money on clothing later:

I’ve adopted a capsule and a self-imposed work uniform.

Drumroll please….

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Yep, that’s a dark pair of jeans and a black shirt.

I showed how I broke up my capsule into work and weekend the other day.

It just so happens that I had (3) black shirts in my capsule/closet anyway so it makes sense to me that I’ll be wearing black mostly with my one pair of jeans. What? One pair? Yes.

And I have a few other shirts that I might rotate in. But then again, maybe not because just a simple black shirt seems pretty dang flawless to me. Black and dark colors are slimming and it’s classic. They don’t show dirt and smudges or nasty pit stains. It’s solid so there’s no question does this print go with that print. I mean, can this even be messed up or go wrong? I can’t imagine so.

Also, I figured I would have a work uniform hair do’ too, because why not? It’s just pinned back with bobby pins so I no longer will have to use heated products to style or fight humidity in this hellish Alabama summer heat.

This hairstyle is pretty much the easiest thing ever.

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After 3 days of wearing a black shirt and the same pair of dark jeans not one person in my sphere has commented. That tells me that even the closest of loved ones could care less about what I’m wearing.

They say to dress for the job you want, not for the job you have.

Well, my friends:

A Bachelor’s Degree in Business and 10 years of career hunting and climbing ladders and layoffs and playing office politics later, I can say without question that dressing for the job you want is paramount.

Which is why I am dressing simply and in jeans. Because if my job requires me to use my clothing as my leverage in life, then that’s no job I want at all.

That’s playing games and I don’t have time for that.

I’ve been there done that and thank God out of those situations.

My current job is a good one and I can dress like this if I want to.

And I do.

Clarity Above Clutter

Clarity, Free Spirit, Gentle Change, Minimalism, Minimalist

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The minimalist journey has been amazing so far. I have a little more free time at home, my house isn’t as crowded and messy, things are beginning to have a place; and more importantly I am taking more time for myself – to dream, to meditate, and to really hone in on what I want.

It’s not perfect, but it is better.

One of the things I am noticing now is my clarity is becoming more clear. I am more certain about myself and decision making isn’t such a drudgery. I have been running for so long on auto-pilot, and my daily to-do-list itself was so out of control that I didn’t have time to actually think. This in turn had manifested in continual sickness and impacting my health.

We all have a breaking point, and that was mine.

That is when I started running in the opposite direction and am currently still on the bail.

I have more time to think about things that I never could when I was on empty like:

  1. Waste: I’ve been recently inspired by Kelly Almost Green as she shows her progress on less waste. Although, I’m not at the point where it’s my main focus, I am more thoughtful on simple choices like paper over plastic featured in my muffin pic above. I am also using my Pyrex bowls to store food instead of Ziplocks and my family is making it a point to utilize leftovers. When I shop, I purchase veggies individually without the plastic wrap. It’s the small things that add up to the big things.
  2. Laundry: I’ve been hanging my clothes to dry skipping the dryer all together. At one time, I would have thought this was such a waste; but now I am open to change. I realize that going straight from the wash to hang saves me a lot of time and unnecessary steps.
  3. Beauty Routine: Minimizing the products I use saves time and money. I have the exact same results as before and in some cases better; such as my skin heath by doing the caveman regimine and using natural body soap.
  4. Capsule Wardrobe: Before, I felt like the more options I had, the better. That’s just not the case. By donating or selling items that I don’t like or don’t fit well, I now have an uncluttered closet with clothes I actually love. Getting ready in the morning is so much easier and I’m less likely to splurge on a shopping spree.
  5. Getting balls: I realize that I have expended way more than I’ve gotten in the last decade for fear of rejection. I’m a true people-pleaser, but there has got to be more balance. I’ve forgotten my stance along the way and I now have the clarity to begin growing my balls again.

Now that I’ve implemented the action needed to reduce the excess and unnecessary in my life I can breathe a little easier. The clarity and focus that was silenced to internal and external clutter is way more useful and important than the ‘stuff’ used to pacify my discontent. 

In moving forward, I plan on continuing giving up excuses and getting up off my ass. I won’t watch my life pass me by while I’m a bystander. I’m going to do something about it, and if you are in the same boat as me, I suggest you do the same too.

Why I Wear The Same Thing Every Day

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I open my WordPress Reader and got a dose of inspiration this morning while sipping my coffee at the office. I love when this happens!

The post was:

Why I Wear The Same Thing Every Day.

In essence, it explains how a lot of super-successful people wear a work uniform for simplicity so they can focus on their work and passions without worrying about clothing.

I’ve been obsessed with my capsule this summer, so much so that I post about it a good bit.

But, after thinking: hey, I should just have a work uniform from my capsule for consistency and then a weekend capsule for the weekends.

So, since I already had pictures from my current capsule, all I had to do was split it up into two categories:

1. Work

2. Weekend

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And I’m pretty pleased with the split. By the looks of the capsules, I may can actually narrow down what I have currently in my closet to match this exactly.

That would be perfect.

Have you ever thought about a work uniform, too? I’m excited to split up the capsule and see how it goes over the next week.